23 Jul

PokemonNO

I was on board with the lure of the latest craze, the Pokemon GO app…for about an hour.  I first heard about this phenomenon on Monday, then again a few hours later, and then a few hours after that.  It seemed to be all anyone was talking about. Then I heard what a great opportunity it was for kids to…..

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17 May

beyourself

I was standing in line at the grocery store, waiting for the conveyor belt full of groceries to open up enough space to begin unloading my cart, when a flash of moving color caught my eye. Looking down, I saw a young girl, three or four years old. She was wearing what looked to be a recital costume with a red-sequined bodice and a full tulle skirt with…..

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04 May

humility

I was raised by my paternal grandparents, who accepted responsibility for my care when I was an infant and they were both 50-ish. As a result, I spent a great deal of time with people who had experienced much in life and who shared their wisdom with me. One of my grandfather’s best pieces of advice was, “If you’re good,…..

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08 Apr

images

From the moment a baby squeezes its way through the birth canal and is thrust into the great wide open world, it screams in shock and despair desperately wanting to climb back into the safe cocoon of its mother’s womb.  Those observing – the doctors, nurses, loved ones, and especially the mother, herself – are joyful as the baby screams. The baby is alone in its despair. Whatever…..

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04 Feb

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“This is a beautiful story, completely captivating, and authentic. I love the author’s natural storytelling ability as she tackles numerous life issues relevant to everyone. I felt the love between Blaire and her grandmother jump off the pages; this is such a heart-felt read. More than love is the tenderness and respect the women held…..

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16 Dec

Please check out Podcast 130: UNgone on Finding Our Hunger with Kaila Prins. I had the pleasure of spending an hour with Kaila discussing my book, recovery, discovery, honoring our individual journeys, and why you can’t start with a quadruple pirouette!  Listen in, then do yourself a BIG favor and spend time looking through the other 129 podcasts Kaila has posted to-date.  She’s amazing and generous and she deserves your support!

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24 Aug

“Why don’t women use the word rape more often? Is it because of the legal constraints the usual use of the word implies? Is it due to the lack of bruises and scratches that are generally considered signs of force? Or do we just lack a proper word to define that horrible middle place—the huge space between voluntary sex and prosecutable rape? Maybe we can’t prove it, but we know it when it happens because we feel it at our…..

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17 Aug

Growing up in an alcoholic family is like being raised in a war zone. Life is, at best, unpredictable. Threats lurk; traps are set; people explode; survival becomes the goal. It is difficult to pinpoint the origin of the trouble because it has been present, simmering quietly, for generations. Then an event occurs that ignites full-blown chaos.” (From “Not Really Gone”, p. 6)

There has been much research done on the detrimental effects on children who are raised in a…..

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27 Jul

Writing has always been a way for me to process my thoughts and feelings—a form of catharsis. Many of the chapters in Not Really Gone were born of frenetic scrawls in wire-bound notebooks in an attempt to ease my despair.

My grandmother was in her late forties when I entered her life—the same age I was when she died. It is sometimes difficult for me to grasp that she had an entire life before me. I was only a portion…..

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