18 Apr


I grew up in Oakland County, Michigan, and was a young teenager during the mid-seventies. During the thirteen-month period between February, 1976 and March, 1977, there were four children abducted, tortured and murdered within a six-mile radius of my home. The Oakland County Child Killer Case, as it was known, forever altered the landscape of our community and my youth……

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08 Feb


Last week I attended a college night for juniors and their parents with my 17-year old daughter at her school. Present were admissions officers from two large universities and one small, private college. All three admissions officers had been doing their jobs for ten or more years and had been visiting this very school twice a year, every year for this joint presentation.  Needless to say, they had…..

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10 Jan


It’s been three days since the Season 2 Premiere of ‘American Crime’, and I cannot stop thinking about how equally disturbing and fascinating the episode was. The opening scene shows a black screen on which are displayed the words we hear spoken by a female voice phoning 911, “I want to report a rape.”

From the outset, we know that…..

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16 Dec

Please check out Podcast 130: UNgone on Finding Our Hunger with Kaila Prins. I had the pleasure of spending an hour with Kaila discussing my book, recovery, discovery, honoring our individual journeys, and why you can’t start with a quadruple pirouette!  Listen in, then do yourself a BIG favor and spend time looking through the other 129 podcasts Kaila has posted to-date.  She’s amazing and generous and she deserves your support!


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21 Sep

After reading a brief interview with Susan Brownmiller titled ‘Against Our Will Author on What Today’s Rape Activists Don’t Get’, I searched fruitlessly to find the ‘rest’ of the interview—the full version from which Brownmiller’s quotes were extracted and edited down to look wildly inflammatory—but there was no other version. I was shocked to read the remarks made by the very woman who is considered ‘groundbreaking’ in her authorship of Against Our Will: Men, Women, and Rape.


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24 Aug

“Why don’t women use the word rape more often? Is it because of the legal constraints the usual use of the word implies? Is it due to the lack of bruises and scratches that are generally considered signs of force? Or do we just lack a proper word to define that horrible middle place—the huge space between voluntary sex and prosecutable rape? Maybe we can’t prove it, but we know it when it happens because we feel it at our…..

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