17 May

beyourself

I was standing in line at the grocery store, waiting for the conveyor belt full of groceries to open up enough space to begin unloading my cart, when a flash of moving color caught my eye. Looking down, I saw a young girl, three or four years old. She was wearing what looked to be a recital costume with a red-sequined bodice and a full tulle skirt with…..

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08 Feb

admissions

Last week I attended a college night for juniors and their parents with my 17-year old daughter at her school. Present were admissions officers from two large universities and one small, private college. All three admissions officers had been doing their jobs for ten or more years and had been visiting this very school twice a year, every year for this joint presentation.  Needless to say, they had…..

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21 Nov

women2She invited you into her life, in need of a friend, a companion.  She was lost in grief, struggling against her inner demons. I wondered if you saw past her gloominess to her bright, witty, sincere, heartfelt soul. I cautiously hoped. She said you liked her – liked talking to her, shared her eclectic taste in music, long walks, and literature. She…..

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09 Nov

If you have not read Peggy McIntosh’s essay “White Privilege and Male Privilege: A Personal Account of Coming to See Correspondences Through Work in Women’s Studies,” I highly recommend doing so. It is a timeless piece of writing, and that is a depressing statement. Why? Because it was written in 1988, yet its tenets are as true today as they were almost 30 years ago. McIntosh has done admirable work in addressing the systemic issues of white privilege (find…..

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02 Nov

aa-chip-1yr

Let me begin by saying that I did not read Gabrielle Glaser’s book, Her Best-Kept Secret—Why Women Drink and How They Can Regain Control. I did, however, read the synopsis, all the reviews-both editorial and Amazon customer posts, and her April, 2015 article in The Atlantic, as well as every comment posted online about said article.

It was Glaser’s article, The Irrationality of Alcoholics Anonymous, that caught my attention—more…..

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26 Oct

strangle

My first week as a counseling intern at a non-profit domestic violence and sexual assault agency was overwhelming.  I was tasked with completing the intakes for new clients—some of who became ongoing individual clients and others who were placed into one of the many therapeutic and educational support groups. The intake consists of gathering background information, screening the client for appropriateness of fit for the agency’s services, assessing the…..

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19 Oct

gun

     It is an established fact that the most dangerous time for a woman in a domestic violence relationship is when she decides to leave the relationship. Domestic violence is about power and control. It is a relationship where one partner exhibits a pattern of behavior meant to exert power and control over the other partner. If the victimized partner shows resistance to the controlling behavior, the…..

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12 Oct

love is not abuse

Movies often portray unhealthy relationships in a romanticized way as humorously shown in the Cracked After Hours video The 9 Creepiest Things Movies Portray as Romantic. But this is no laughing matter, because the primary watchers of these movies are teens and young adults.  Do we really want them getting their information about what “true love” is from the likes of Edward and Bella or Christian and Anastasia?…..

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05 Oct

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October 1st marked the beginning of this year’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  As a year-round advocate for domestic violence victims and survivors and all things related (child abuse, sexual assault, human trafficking, and all equality movements), I am especially grateful for the ramped-up attention to these issues.

Donning my purple nail polish, I spent several hours on October 1st in…..

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